is there any getting through to...

 someone with permanent respectlessness, due to being or thinking they are permanently in the cockpit?

I think it is the collective preference to always conclude they made me do it and therefore there is no respect.  But everyone has pilots, it's pilots cyclity or all-the-way-down, and guess what, they therefore deserve no respect either.  Noone deserves respect ever.  Is what they're advocating.

Never mind getting through to them, how do I get through to myself that this is not true?  Perhaps without, or perhaps with, refering to the pragmatism of a universe that contains credit and blame as more than a merely rendered emotion...

Kahki, car keys.